Regrets ...

Yesterday was the first day of April.  April Fool's Day.  For me, it also marked the 19th anniversary of becoming a single mother of three.  I'm not a fan of the term "single mom".  Some "mothers", and I use that term conservatively, think that divorce makes them single mothers.  "Single Mother" does not necessarily mean they are raising the kids single-handedly.  Although some would like you to believe so.  Not every divorced father out there is a "deadbeat dad".  There are many who love their children and would pull out all stops for them.  Unfortunately, as with in marriage, many times Mom and Dad can't get along, so it continues post-divorce.    The kids lose their identity and become pawns or weapons in a dangerous game.  Hostile Aggressive Parenting is real folks.  It's ugly.  I've witnessed it first hand.  There are no winners, only losers, the kids.  My perspective was that I divorced my husband, the kids did not divorce their dad. Although sharing the financial responsibility is important, it shouldn't be all about monetary child support or "renting" your kids.  Some women will never be happy.  Child support is just that, support!  Emotional as well as physical.  I fortunately, for the most part, remained cordial with my kids dad.  In my situation, I gave up expecting an even participation and "mothered-up", saw there was a job to be done, and I did it!  Looking back, I survived, the kids survived, so who are the winners again? ;-)